Anonymous asked: I broke up with my girlfriend four months ago because I felt like our relationship was going no where. For the past two weeks she started to date one of my friends, suddenly I these nostalgic feelings and I keep on thinking that I made the worst choice in doing what I did. What would you do in my situation?
people change. feelings change. it doesn’t mean that the love once shared wasn’t true and real. it simply just means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.
you can’t fight fate. if you felt like the relationship wasn’t “going anywhere,” that means that you two were: a) too comfortable with each other, b) not trying hard enough to keep the relationship interesting, or c) a mixture of both a and b. it was wise of you to end the relationship if you had any of these feelings. to lie and continue to be in the relationship just for the sake of the relationship is only hurting you both in the end.
yes, it does hurt seeing your ex with someone else. and it hurts a lot more if they’re with one of your friends. and so this might spark nostalgic feelings, but you need to pay close attention to them. many “rekindled feelings” often occur due to jealously.
you need to realize that the relationship is over. she obviously did and moved on. yes, there might be a chance that she is dating your friend to hurt you, but you have to let that go. everything happens for a reason. you’ll meet someone else and move on yourself. it takes time, don’t rush things.
